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Is online therapy right for me?

Am I set up for video-based counselling?

Online therapy is not for everyone. It's really important that you consider online counselling from a personal, practical and logistical perspective.  It is not just about whether you believe online therapy will be the right fit for you, but also whether you have the setup to accommodate video counselling.  In engaging with a therapist online, you are committing to working in that way.  So, before you get started with video-based therapy, here are some things to consider:

 

  • How comfortable are you with using technology?

  • Do you have a device (whether desktop, laptop, tablet or mobile) with a working camera?

  • Do you have somewhere that you can place your device? Holding a phone for 50-minutes can be uncomfortable?

  • Do you feel comfortable sharing feelings and personal experiences with someone who you will not ever meet face-to-face?

  • Can you find a quiet space that is private, comfortable and confidential and where you will not be interrupted? If this is not possible, it will be unlikely that a therapy session can take place

  • Wherever that space may be, are you comfortable talking openly and honestly with me without fear of being overheard? (For instance, some clients who share households with others will take calls in a car to avoid this)

  • Do you have a strong and stable internet connection?

  • Can your internet connection be accessed via private wifi or a 4G connection?

A personal preference, but not for everyone

However, to get the most out of online counselling it's best that you make a conscious choice to engage with a therapist in this way.  And, it's important to remember that there are subtle differences engaging with counselling online.  You should consider whether the benefits of speaking to someone online outweigh any of the perceived drawbacks.  These include:

 1. Limited visual and non-verbal cues:

The field of vision is more limited to online therapy.  Therefore, it can sometimes be difficult to interpret body language and non-verbal cues, which may lead to misunderstandings about how you're feeling.  It doesn't happen often, but it's worth being aware of.

2. Technology and Connectivity issues:

Online therapy can be challenging if you do not have access to appropriate technology. Similarly, with online therapy, there is always the possibility of service interruptions. This can, at times feel frustrating and may impact your online experience.  It is important that you are prepared for these occasional interruptions.  While these challenges are rare, as your therapist, I will mitigate any connectivity challenges at my end through the use of several video platforms, technology devices and methods of connecting.

3. Lack of physical presence in 3D:

Some people prefer face-to-face because they feel better able to express themselves and build a relationship when they are physically in a room with someone.  Similarly, the nature of video calls can feel unnatural and tiring for some.

4. Sessions can feel more intense:

The nature of video calls can feel unnatural and tiring for some. For instance, some clients may find it difficult (depending on the video call provider) to see themselves while talking. Online therapy can sometimes feel more intense because there are fewer distractions and more of a focus on the therapist’s face, rather than the wider surroundings of a room.

5. Issues of client safety:

Some clients may not feel safe discussing their experiences in their own homes, office or car.  Similarly, you and/or I may feel as if your difficulties are too complex to discuss in this way.  For instance, if you are struggling with strong suicidal ideation or have a psychiatric diagnosis such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, face to face sessions may be more beneficial.

If you feel ready to take the next step or have any additional questions about online therapy, why not drop me a message.