What might be different after psychotherapy?

In both an introductory call and in the first few sessions, I tend to explore with clients what they are hoping for from therapy, what might be different after receiving psychological support, and how we will know if it has been successful for them. Each person has many and varied reasons why they seek out psychological support and what they hope to gain from it. Below are some examples of what may be different for you following a course of psychotherapy, psychological support or coaching, including developing a more balanced sense of self, improved emotional recognition and expression, increased awareness of strengths and resources and, finally, newfound meaning and perspective.

A more balanced sense of self

  • Building greater psychological and emotional resilience

  • Developing more self-compassion and the ability to access internal resources to support better emotional regulation

  • Helping lower overall stress and arousal levels

  • Finding inner confidence, trust, self-respect and self-belief

  • Developing autonomy and a newfound sense of identity

  • Developing self-awareness

  • Finding a sense of self-empowerment and motivation

  • Creating more meaningful and authentic relationships with yourself, others and the world

    Improved emotional recognition and expression

  • Where relevant, taking a more accepting stance on our emotions, internal experiences and the uncertainties of life (Note of caution: this is not always appropriate, particularly in instances of intimate partner violence and abuse)

  • Developing a better understanding of the purpose and place for feelings and emotions

  • Increasing your willingness to experience emotions and connect with them

  • Developing a greater tolerance for difficult feelings, emotions and sensations (if this is appropriate)

    Increased awareness of strengths and resources

  • Celebrating successes and acknowledging achievements

  • Identifying internal and external resources that provide strength and comfort in times of challenge

  • Understanding what drives you and what obscures you from reaching your full potential

  • Increasing your ability to connect with the world and others and decreasing your sense of social isolation

    Newfound meaning & perspective

  • Seeing your life story and experiences through fresh eyes

  • A greater appreciation for how your life experiences have shaped you

  • Making sense of your place in the world and understanding how your story has been shaped by social, cultural, environmental, political, regulatory, structural, spiritual and familial influence

  • Understanding and making sense of your life story

  • Changing your relationship with past experiences to enable you to build a stronger future

  • Identifying what is important to you and what you value in life

  • Helping you find direction, meaning and purpose in life

  • Considering choices and actions that enable you to move forward aligned to what you most value, encouraging growth and development as a human being

Engaging in therapy is not a guarantee that things will change, nor is it a guarantee that things will get better. How psychological support helps will depend on many contextual factors. To ensure you get the most from therapy, being able to develop a good relationship with your psychotherapist/counsellor or psychologist, where you have a sense of trust and feel able to be open and honest about your experiences, is crucial. Additionally, it’s helpful if you have the motivation and desire to engage in therapy, even when it feels tough, which it will! 

If, after reading this, you've found yourself considering a course of therapy or are interested in an introductory call to see if we might be the right fit, please contact me and I'll be happy to help.

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